Self Deception
Why do we settle for less in some of the most important areas in our life? Marriage for instance; why do we settle for less than the best communication? The answer is so simple we miss it almost always. We settle for less because less is worth more in regards to dealing with difficult truths about ourselves. It’s easier to avoid the cold hard facts than it is to face them. It ‘s easier to believe our intensions and overlook our actions when they are less than desirable. It’s easier to believe the best and so much harder to believe the worst so we avoid it.
As well intentioned people, we still see things through our own personal filters. We have to decipher others’ body language and facial expressions many times in order to receive the messages we don’t want to believe. And when certain people are able to mask those precious queue’s we are left with whatever aftermath may follow. This street always runs both ways so we need to pray for more head-on collisions so we can realize when we’re driving on the wrong side of the road.
We all do this in many different ways. True love and respect for one another will ultimately pave the way for healing and reconciliation to take place where failures once ruled. Believing the best in one another, forgiving one another, and keeping communications clear will expedite long term health. Honesty and forthrightness without the fear of not being heard will clear the road of unwanted obstacles. As we grow older, we’re supposed to become better communicators, lovers, and friends.
The open life has its benefits
The best way to live life is in the open. Out on the prairie… right smack dab in the open field for all to see. No secrets. If your best friend decides to become your enemy and blabs some horrible tale you told them once, your wife or husband already knows. Keeping proper information in confidence is one thing; keeping secrets about your life by living one way in public and another way in private is another.
Never be caught dead with a list of weird actions that would offend your mate and children. There’s nothing worse than being held hostage and blackmailed by your own issues. Make it a priority to have at least three people who know everything about you every day outside of your family. This will keep the bacterium from growing in the closet.
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